My husband cooks.
I carry groceries.
He sends kids to school.
I attend Parent Conferences.
He fills fuel to the car.
I drive the car to work.
He does laundry.
I negotiate insurance.
The above list is a gist of our family activities
Friends who are close to us know all about this.
Interestingly common questions or comments we will encounter as a couple are as below
- I am very dominating.
- Do we had an agreement before marriage about sharing work
- My hubby is scared of me.
- Do I have a separate bank account?
- I am a feminist
- So I won’t have any daily chores?
- Whether I am spending my salary only for me?
- We are very calculative couples.
From the above lists, two things are obvious
Number 1 – Even though we are in the 21st century, our culture and ancestors defined who should do what kind of chore, and it is still valid.
Number 2- People are judgmental; they never know what you are going through. They will use non-toxic words with a toxic tone.
I am writing this not to prove anyone who we are, and it doesn’t matter what other things as long as we are happy.
Also, when we continuously find ourselves trying to prove our worth to someone, we are already forging our value.
But it still I managed to write because most of us are living our life based on how others perceive us, by making these comments publically
Some husbands stop helping their wives as it hits their self-respect.
Some wives are losing confidence and feeling guilty.
After a daylong work and 1 hr. of my commute to home, my hubby hands me over a cup of coffee – Yes my husband cooks.
Even though men are physically stronger than women, how much burden they will carry their whole life – Yes I carry the groceries.
He understands my day starts with cooking and taking care of kids before I reach office and my palpitations to reach home sooner for my kids – he didn’t even give a chance to the car to provide me with any trouble – yes he fills the fuel I drive to work.
My husband earning hard for the family undergoing a lot of stress at work, I won’t allow anyone to take my husband for granted – yes I will negotiate insurance.
He admires me as an Independent Woman, and he wanted me to handle everything in life. He enjoys my happiness in receiving the payment for my work. – yes, I do have a separate bank account
We never spent any time in this before in sorting or discussing these activities prior. It all occurred naturally.
Gifting materials is happiness; it stays for a day
Caring for each other is Joy, it remains forever
We give and take.
We fall and catch one another
We are individuals, and we are together
We are simple, and we are complex
We can be silent, and we can be loud
We may not always know the answers
We may not always make perfect decisions
But we still have each other
And that’s what we call ‘LOVE.’
Happy Valentine’s Day.
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